Slowing Down to Be Present with God and Others

Do you find yourself constantly in motion, always on the go, and rarely stopping to take a breath? Do you experience restlessness? When people ask how you’re doing, is your automatic response something like “good, just really busy”? If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. I catch myself saying it too, and I hear it from people of all walks of life—retirees, students, stay-at-home parents, and professionals alike.

I constantly find myself in a hurry, trying to accomplish one thing after another so I can accomplish more. This includes activities related to my employment, in the home, where I serve, and even when I’m supposed to be rejuvenating.

This summer while on vacation to visit family and friends my heart was convicted. It was as though I was trying to get through every conversation and gathering as quickly as possible. This left me feeling exhausted and guilty as I was supposed to experience peace and joy with these wonderful people, yet I felt the opposite. My mind wandered and I was frequently mentally “somewhere else”.

What convicted me wasn’t a specific friend or family member, it was through self-reflection, alone time, and prayer. One phrase kept coming to mind: Be present.

My selfishness is what got in the way. I was the problem, not anyone else. Our most limited resource is our time, and more important than time is our attention. While I “spent time” with these people, my attention was elsewhere.

Worse than inattention to family and friends is inattention to God and his will for my life. The more focused I am on myself, the less focused I am on God. This goes for prayer time, acknowledging the beauty of His creation, and giving thanks for the many blessings he has given.

Since that moment of conviction, I’ve started making small but meaningful changes. By intentionally focusing on the present (and on others), prayer, and time with God, I’ve found more joy in my interactions.

Today’s reading in 1 Peter 3 gives some simple instructions for good living which relates to my story:

  • Love each other (v. 8). It is loving to give our attention to others.
  • Be tenderhearted (v. 8). We can only have tender hearts when we see others for who they are (God’s creation) and we let go of selfish desires.
  • Keep a humble attitude (v. 8). Again, putting others first, dying to self.
  • Bless those who hurt us (and we will be blessed by God) (v. 9). The world says to take revenge but how is that working out for the world?
  • Tell the truth and speak with kindness (v. 10). This talks about being able to enjoy life. While scripture doesn’t guarantee a “happy life”, we can still live life abundantly in Christ. Too often we chase things we don’t need to find happiness. This scripture keeps it simple.
  • Do good, maintain peace (v. 11). This verse contains action words. Good living doesn’t come from just sitting on the couch watching television. Take action!

All of those verses lead me to close with 1 Peter 3:15.

Instead, you must worship Christ as Lord of your life. And if someone asks about your hope as a believer, always be ready to explain it.

As you reflect on these scriptures, I invite you to carve out some quiet time today or tomorrow to pray over these questions:

  1. What do my time and attention say about me? Do these choices indicate Christ as Lord of my life?
  2. If someone asks about my hope as a believer, am I ready to explain it? What will I say?

Today’s reading: 2 Kings 24-25; 2 Chronicles 36; Psalm 126; 1 Peter 3